Sophisticasm: A blog about 'Sophistication'

So my oldest, still living, friend came over yesterday and of course she wanted to know how my girlfriend was doing. Then she asked if it was okay if she called her my girlfriend. Then she asked why things were so difficult for me when it came to relationships.

Well here’s the thing. Relationships for me are very simple. There is no boyfriend or girlfriend. There is only that one special person who has you as their one special person. Two people who love each other in a way that is different from everyone else.

There are no titles, no establishing dates and times of important events, no recognizing significant moments, just pure joy of having the company of the one you love.

She couldn’t grasp the concept. She thinks that it is important to let everyone know that you have someone to love so that if you don’t they can find someone for you. Well here’s the thing… when people go looking for love, they often try to force the feelings and instead don’t let the feelings develop over time. It is the dumbest thing. A lot of my friends keep wondering why they cant find love and I keep trying to tell them that you don’t find love, it finds you. The more you look for it, the harder it will be to find. You have to let it fall into your lap.

People don’t let things develop. They don’t let love grow, they push it too far too fast and it turns into something meaningless. Love shouldn’t be easy to talk about because of its complexity.

I was basically in a committed relationship with someone and didn’t realize it until 3 to 4 years after it started. Neither of us really discussed it. We just knew. That’s how love should be. You shouldn’t point it out. It is no one’s business but your own.

The biggest reason I get upset when people ask me about my love life is because unless they are involved in it, they shouldn’t ask about it. Just sit back and wait for the wedding/party/whatever invitation. Then you can say your congratulations and go back to leaving us to sharing the rest of our lives together without you pointing out that we finally found someone.

I’m so busy and I like to keep that way. My friend Shannon came over today and I sat her down to play video games while I cleaned and got ready for my trip to Yellowstone. She enjoyed it well just as I did. Lol I love when friends just don’t give a hoot.

So I am now applied for Fall Graduation for my AA at the community college and also applied to BSU today. Hopefully I am accepted and hopefully I get some financial aid to help pay for that. I’m just happy that I will have a 2 year degree with NO DEBT due to PAYING CASH!!! WOOP WOOP for full time employment and college!

Haven’t graduated or been accepted to BSU, but it still feels like progress.